The Value Of Tweezers
"Thank you."
"That's yours, if you want to help my dog."
"Oh! Th-these are mine!"
In Judaism, the value "Ko'ach Hadibur" reflects the importance of choosing one's words carefully. Through dialogue, we can heal or hurt, welcome or shun, guide or confuse. The juxtaposed sin of "L'shon Hara," or "the evil tongue," teaches that when we are reckless with words, we diminish both others and ourselves, but through Ko'ach Hadibur, we can support and enrich both ourselves and one another.
The recorded exchange took place early in the day in our Animal Hospital Dramatic Play area. As A finished his breakfast, Z gave him a pair of tweezers, and put forth an invitation to join in and help heal a possibly ill puppy, which A readily accepted.
In extending her hand and her tweezers, Z is speaking to A in a way that communicates value. The invitation communicates not only a trust in A's veterinary skill, but a desire to play with and be in the company of A. Likewise, A's pleased acceptance reciprocates the desire for company, and suggests an appreciation for the place he's been offered. In a simple exchange, a deeper and more affirming dialogue can be unearthed: "I value you and your place in this game. Will you play with me?" Through their words, A and Z reflect the values of Ko'ach Hadibur in a straightforward and practical way: using words to welcome people in.
Words are often the main way we can shape our relationships with the people around us. Our speech can make or break a person's day, bring light to someone in dark times, or simply make clear that a person is welcome and wanted. And when we embrace the value of Ko'ach Hadibur, we can find ways to, like A and Z, extend affirmation, support, and even a pair of tweezers to people we value.
